Picture: Counsel #24 — Accountable CI 63.1
We’ve all said something we didn’t mean or acted out of frustration. As Christians, whenever we step out of a Christ-like character, our hearts should be heavy with regret. It’s tempting to defend yourself, explain why you did it, or brush it off like it wasn’t a big deal, but deep down, you know you could’ve done things differently, better. CI 63.2
Real self-respect doesn’t come from pretending you’re always right; it comes from being honest, owning when you’re wrong. This means apologizing without the “but,” no blaming, and no excuses. Genuine apologies bring healing not just to the person you hurt but also to your own heart. You can’t walk in integrity while sidestepping accountability. Think of David in the Bible. After his sin with Bathsheba, he didn’t try to spin the narrative to make himself seem innocent. In Psalms 51, he poured out a raw, honest apology to God. That moment of confession was the beginning of David’s restoration. So, if you’ve disrespected or hurt someone, own it. Don’t wait for the “perfect moment” and don’t hope they forget. Be the first to say, “I was wrong,” and mean it. Allow the Holy Spirit to give you the repentant heart He has promised.[63] https://www.croydonadventist.org/how-do-i-repent/ CI 63.3
“Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy.” Proverbs 28:13 NIV CI 63.4
“God holds every one of us to an individual accountability…” Ellen White in Christian Service, p. 86 CI 63.5
Reflect: Is there someone you need to apologize to without excuses? CI 63.6
