Picture: Counsel #14 — The In-Laws CR 190.1
Navigating in-law relationships isn’t as easy as movies make it seem. In reality, these relationships require maturity, boundaries, and grace. While your parents and extended family remain important, your marriage must take priority. CR 190.2
Some of the benefits of having a close relationship with your in-laws are that they can offer wisdom and support during difficult times. But if their opinions consistently override your decisions or stir division between you and your spouse, it’s time to lovingly set boundaries. Discussing expectations as a couple is of equal importance: How much input will family have in your finances, parenting, or time? Are you united in how you respond to criticism or manipulation? All disagreements between you and your spouse should be kept private, and most importantly, never vent about your spouse to your family! You don’t want your family to have a bad impression of your spouse just because they made one mistake. When in doubt, always lead with the motto, “We’re a team first,” then, whatever tensions may arise regarding your in-laws, these controversies won’t have a significant impact on your healthy, happy marriage.[197] https://www.gatewaytosolutions.org/navigating-your-relationship-with-in-laws/ CR 190.3
“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 NIV CR 190.4
“Boundaries are essential in any type of relationship…” Ellen White in Counsels on Relationships, p. 40 CR 190.5
Reflect: How could praying for your in-laws promote a greater sense of grace, patience, or understanding within you toward them? CR 190.6
