Counsel #16 — Conflict Resolution

Picture: Counsel #16 — Conflict ResolutionCSL 115.1

Jesus declared peacemakers blessed,^{[146]Matthew 5:9} setting a high standard for how believers should engage with the inevitable conflicts that arise in life. The Apostle Paul echoed this sentiment, urging us to live peacefully with all people, as far as possible.^{[147]Romans 12:18} This doesn’t mean avoiding disagreements or pretending problems don’t exist, but rather approaching conflict in a way that seeks resolution.CSL 115.2

Finding this peace begins with humility, acknowledging our own potential contributions to the disagreement, and being willing to listen. Instead of defensiveness or blame, a Christian’s approach emphasizes empathy and a genuine desire to see the situation from the other’s point of view. This often involves prayer, seeking God’s wisdom and guidance in navigating difficult conversations. Forgiveness also plays a crucial role. Holding onto resentment and bitterness only breeds further unrest within our hearts and hinders any possibility of true resolution and peace.CSL 115.3

Ultimately, healthy conflict resolution, from a Christian standpoint, mirrors the love and grace we have received from God. It’s about valuing relationships over being "right" and prioritizing restoration over retribution.^{[148] https://www.askanadventistfriend.com/how-to-grow-spiritually/what-the-bible-says-about-resolving-conflicts/} CSL 115.4

“Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.” James 3:18 NKJVCSL 115.5

“Let everyone seek a character that will express love in all his actions.” Ellen White in Letter 50, 1893, par. 11CSL 115.6

Reflect: Do you typically turn to prayer when facing conflict? How might seeking God’s wisdom and guidance help you navigate difficult conversations more effectively?CSL 115.7