Counsel #15 — Differences

Picture: Counsel #15 — DifferencesCR 191.1

No two people are exactly alike, and that’s a good thing! God made every one of us different intentionally. In marriage, differences in personality, upbringing, and communication styles can either build a deeper bond or create daily tension. It all depends on how these differences are expressed and accepted.CR 191.2

For example, one spouse might love to plan everything months in advance, while the other prefers to just “see what happens.” These differences don’t have to divide you, but they can teach you how to fully accept your spouse for who they are. Early in marriage, these opposites tend to attract because they bring balance and variety to the relationship, but over time, they can also become sources of irritation unless you approach them with humility and patience. Instead of saying, “Why do you always have to control everything?” try, “Can you help me understand why it’s important to have a plan right now?” The Bible encourages us to live at peace with everyone, including our spouse. When you stop trying to “fix” your partner and start learning from them, your marriage will become more cooperative and less combative, aligning with God’s will.^{[198] https://growinghometogether.com/embrace-differences/} CR 191.3

“If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18 NIVCR 191.4

“Different gifts are imparted to different ones…” Ellen White in From the Heart, p. 305CR 191.5

Reflect: Do you appreciate your spouse’s differences, or are you trying to change them?CR 191.6