Counsel #13 — Pride-Free Friendship

Picture: Counsel #13 — Pride-Free FriendshipCR 31.1

Humility is a cornerstone of healthy and lifelong friendships because it opens the door for you to prioritize the needs and feelings of others, creating a dynamic where mutual respect is the foundation of the relationship. To be a humble friend means listening without judgment, avoiding any arrogant speech or behavior, and straying away from trying to be superior to the other person.CR 31.2

From a Christian perspective, humility reflects Christ’s example of servanthood and selflessness. Philippians 2:3, 4 reminds us to “do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility value others above yourselves.” For example, admitting your fault after an argument with your friend demonstrates accountability and helps repair the bond much quicker than if you were to deny fault or cast blame. Showing humility not only creates deeper friendships, but also serves God by acknowledging His superiority in every human relationship — trusting Him to direct and nurture the friendship.^{[29]https://www.littletonsdachurch.org/resources/pastor-s-blog/clothed-with-humility/} CR 31.3

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under God’s mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time.” 1 Peter 5:6 NIVCR 31.4

“True humility is the evidence that we behold God and that we are in union with Jesus Christ. Unless we are meek and lowly we cannot claim that we have any true conception of the character of God.” Ellen White in That I May Know Him, p. 122CR 31.5

Reflect: Have you ever been friends with someone who lacks humility? How did they make you feel?CR 31.6